How a Writer Turned a Rejected Modern Love Pitch into 3 Published Articles

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When you really, really want to write for a blog, magazine or newspaper, you put in serious effort to make your pitch stand out. You study the content, you align your writing with their style, and you polish your submission until it’s perfect.

And yet sometimes, your submission still gets rejected. And it sucks.

After receiving rejections, I’ve winced, cried, deleted entire pieces and fallen victim to writer’s block. And then one day, I received the kind yet firm “no” that pushed me over the edge.

Rejection: A case study

Long a reader of the New York Times’ Modern Love column, I dreamed of submitting my own story, but knew it needed something special to stand out. Then Hurricane Sandy happened.

As my fireman husband saved our neighborhood, I hunkered down as first responder to our one-year-old, alternating between worrying for his safety and ours. What relationship story could compare? I knew this was it. This was my Modern Love piece. It wasn’t — but the editor was very nice about it.

Rather than letting the rejection ruin my day, I decided to change my outlook and strategy to fire myself up. Here’s how I turn every rejection into my next accepted pitch.

.@dawnturzio turns every rejection into her next accepted pitch. You can, too. Click To Tweet

Let yourself be mad

Acknowledge your emotions. It’s disappointing when the piece you poured your energy into doesn’t live up to an editor’s standards!

You’re not likely to do your best work while you’re focused on your shortcomings. Take a break to go for a walk or squeeze a stress ball until it no longer takes on a round shape. Whatever activity helps you move forward, don’t start working again until you’re able to focus on your writing again without as much emotion.

Find other potential outlets

Once you’re able to look at your piece again, reread it and brainstorm a list of markets that publish similar content. You already know who doesn’t want it, so investigate other options — and look beyond your usual contacts. Usually stick to print? Add a few blogs to your list. If you’re all about online writing, why not aim for a newsstand glossy? If you normally stick to U.S. publications, try an international magazine.

This list, your starting point for the reject’s rebirth, is also a great resource for future submissions.

Figure out what makes your story stand out

Take a fluorescent marker and highlight parts of your piece that make it unique. Ask yourself, “What makes my piece different? How is this a story only I could write?”

Image: What makes your story stand out?

If you are telling a traditional love story, for example, there needs to be a point of entry that sets your tale apart from the others. In my case, being the wife of a firefighter who is obligated to work during catastrophes was unique in comparison to other stories of Hurricane Sandy, which gave me a leg up when submitting.

Know your audience

As you revise your work, consider who will be reading it. Can you convey your story in such a way that it reaches more than one demographic?

When I realized I wasn’t descriptive enough while explaining my husband’s role as a rescue fireman during Hurricane Sandy, I added that he also responded to the airplane crash in the Hudson River in New York City in 2009. While this addition increased the tension in the essay, it also broadened my audience from the targeted female readership to also include men and other first responders — making it more salable.

When you tell a story that spans several demographics, you’re better able to sell a clip to multiple markets, so long as you retain copyright and are careful with giving exclusivity to publications interested in your work.

Toss the rejected query

Get rid of the query letter you sent with your original submission: the one that kindly asks the editor to consider your idea. In its place, create a new one that contains an action-packed paragraphor an innovative tip that simply cannot be ignored.

Construct your query to read as clearly and concisely as the completed work you’ll be presenting, and you’ll start to see results. For example, that once-rejected essay of mine was later picked up by a popular relationship website, MSN Living, and a professional magazine for firefighters — and this last one even ran it as the cover story.

When you inevitably find your piece in an editor’s rejection pile, don’t throw in the towel. Get back to work and turn that reject into your next published piece.

How have you dealt with rejection as a writer?

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Dawn Turzio is a well-fed freelance writer and aspiring novelist. For more of her writing (including her resuscitated reject), and to connect on social media, please visit .

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  1. Great advice Dawn. There are numerous markets in each niche and often one story can be carried into two or three different niches, so don’t let that initial “no” get you down too much!

    • Absolutely! Analysis of storytelling from different angles helps broaden the scope of one’s audience. Thank you for reading and sharing your words, Daryl.

  2. Great post, Dawn. I check if there’s constructive criticism I can use to improve my skills. If there’s nothing, I move on and let it fall off my back like water off a duck’s feathers.

    Not everyone is going to like my writing. That’s a fact of life, so I focus on finding the people who will like my writing.

    • Yes, I agree with you, Elke. Advice that is constructive from editors can be extremely helpful. Like you, I also heed their words in order to strengthen my work before resubmission.

      A “no” is a no for one publication, but it doesn’t mean we have to stop there. Learning why and using it to positively hone our craft and pursue other outlets becomes a win-win. Who doesn’t love winning?

  3. Brooklyn Dom says:

    Great Stuff !!!! Keep moving forward !!!! When you hit the NY Times Best Seller a lot of editor’s will be kickin themselves

  4. Bernadette says:

    This is awesome! ! True in so many ways. ..including every day life..

  5. Wow, this is excellent advice, thank you. While I have re-pitched a rejected article to new markets, rethinking and rewriting it completely to give it a new spin altogether is a great tip. I hadn’t thought of it in this light. And I also know the feeling of being rejected when you were “so sure it was perfect for them” 🙂 It’s tough. But we’re writers, so we gotta be tougher. Thanks for the great article.

    • I’m glad you enjoyed the post, Evangeline!

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    • I agree that being tough gives us lasting power. It takes time, practice and patience to develop the much-required thick skin that’s needed in this business. Remaining optimistic about our work despite rejection is vital, and “repurposing” our pieces while being true to the art of our storytelling is an important way to stay focused.

      Thanks for reading!

  6. Gibrilla Bright Kamara says:

    Writing has to with passion…. don’t write because you think you have to, but write because you love it.


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