{"id":4756,"date":"2015-03-03T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-03-03T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thewritelife.com\/?p=4756"},"modified":"2015-02-24T12:26:52","modified_gmt":"2015-02-24T17:26:52","slug":"writing-advice-for-my-20-year-old-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/?p=4756","title":{"rendered":"Writing Advice: 5 Things I Wish I Could Tell My 20-Year-Old Self"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I sometimes wish I could offer the 20-year-old version of me &#8212; the one just getting started &#8212; advice about writing based on what I&#8217;ve learned over the last two decades. Considering the mistakes I&#8217;ve made, and what I&#8217;ve learned from them, I could give myself a good head-start.<\/p>\n<p>While my mistakes were plentiful, five stand out as being particularly useful lessons to a writer just out of the gate. Here\u2019s the <a title=\"Writing Advice: What You Can Learn From #AdviceForYoungJournalists\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/11-ways-to-ask-for-writing-advice-and-10-major-mistakes-to-avoid\/\" target=\"_blank\">writing advice<\/a> I&#8217;d share with the younger, more energetic me. If you\u2019re a new writer, perhaps it will be useful to you as well.<\/p>\n<h2><b>1. Write as often as you can, every day if possible<\/b><\/h2>\n<p>We all practice things to become better at them, even when we don&#8217;t feel like <a title=\"Don\u2019t Wait for Inspiration: 3 Surefire Ways to Beat Writer\u2019s Block\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/dont-wait-for-inspiration-beat-writers-block\/\" target=\"_blank\">practicing<\/a>. If you play an instrument, you try to practice as often as you can to become a better musician. Why is writing any different?<\/p>\n<p><b>For most of my writing career, however, I never wrote very much.<\/b> I&#8217;d produce a story or two each year, maybe 25,000 words total. If I wrote 30 or 40 days in a given year, it was a lot. During the first 21 years I was writing, I sold a story, on average, once every three years.<\/p>\n<p>Two years ago, I set out to see if I could <a title=\"Write Every Day: How to Meet Your Daily Writing Goals\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/daily-writing-goals\/\" target=\"_blank\">write every day<\/a>. I wasn&#8217;t worried about how much I wrote, just that I would write every day, even if it was only for 10 minutes.<\/p>\n<p>The result? I have a nearly perfect track record. The last day on which I <i>didn&#8217;t<\/i> write was July 21, <i>2013<\/i>. <b>I&#8217;ve written for 714 out of the last 716 days.<\/b> <b>In that time, I have produced just over 500,000 words.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Writing every day gives me the practice I need to become a better writer. I think it shows. During the last two years, I&#8217;ve sold a story or article once every 45 days on average. Practice helps. I shudder to think how much better I might be today if I had been writing every day for the last 23 years.<\/p>\n<h2><b>2. Find a writing group that will read what you write and give critical feedback<\/b><\/h2>\n<p>When I started writing, it never occurred to me to show what I wrote to someone else for <a title=\"Writing Feedback: The Ultimate Guide to Working with Beta Readers\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/ultimate-guide-to-beta-readers\/\" target=\"_blank\">critical feedback<\/a> before sending it off to a magazine. For the most part, I was the only one making critical assessments of my work, and &#8212; as it turns out &#8212; I am not my best critic.<\/p>\n<p>In 2008, I attended an online science fiction writing workshop run by James Gunn at the University of Kansas at Lawrence. <b>This was my first real exposure to workshopping stories, getting vital critical feedback (as well as giving it), and using that feedback to improve my stories.<\/b> After completing the workshop, I saw a notable improvement in my stories, and began selling more of them.<\/p>\n<p>In 2010, I joined a local <a title=\"40 Places to Find a Critique Partner Who Will Help You Improve Your Writing\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/find-a-critique-partner\/\" target=\"_blank\">writing group<\/a> in Arlington, Virginia, through Meetup. I&#8217;ve been a member of that group ever since, and the critical feedback I&#8217;ve received from the group members has been among the best lessons I&#8217;ve received as a writer.<\/p>\n<p>Plus, it&#8217;s nice to occasionally hang out with people who get <a title=\"Want to Join a Writing Group? 8 Places to Look\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/join-writing-group\/\" target=\"_blank\">what it&#8217;s like to be a writer<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2><b>3. Don&#8217;t bother your favorite writer by asking him to read and comment on your latest masterpiece<\/b><\/h2>\n<p>Yes, I did this. I didn&#8217;t know any better. I know that&#8217;s not a good excuse, but it&#8217;s the truth. Sometime in 1992 or 1993, I sent one of my stories to my favorite writer at the time &#8212; Piers Anthony &#8212; asking for feedback. Looking back on it, I am horribly embarrassed that I did this.<\/p>\n<p>I was fortunate. Mr. Anthony not only wrote me a pleasant reply, but he included a critique of my story. I imagine there are other writers who would not have been so genial.<\/p>\n<p>These days, I am occasionally the recipient of such requests. For several years, I did my best to give what feedback I could; I saw it as my penance for the sin I&#8217;d committed. But if I could have a do-over, I would grab the younger version of myself by the lapels and scream, &#8220;DON&#8217;T DO IT!&#8221;<\/p>\n<h2><b>4. Don&#8217;t be afraid of rejection<\/b><\/h2>\n<p>When I started out, I was a little <a title=\"How Fear of Failure Keeps Writers From Producing Their Best Work\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/fear-of-failure\/\" target=\"_blank\">afraid of rejection<\/a>. I got used to it pretty quickly as my pile of rejection slips grew.<\/p>\n<p>I also learned that (at least in my case) they were never personal. <b>No one ever wrote, &#8220;This story is terrible. Don&#8217;t give up your day job.&#8221;<\/b> For a long time, the <a title=\"How a Writer Turned a Rejected Modern Love Pitch into 3 Published Articles\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/rejected-pitch-to-published-articles\/\" target=\"_blank\">rejections<\/a> were just form letters.<\/p>\n<p>What surprised me &#8212; what I <i>didn&#8217;t<\/i> expect &#8212; was my fear of <i>acceptance<\/i>. The first time I sold a story, I was thrilled. As it got closer to the publication date, however, I grew <a title=\"Feel Nervous About Submitting Your Writing? Why That\u2019s a Good Thing\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/feel-nervous-submitting-writing-thats-good-thing\/\" target=\"_blank\">nervous<\/a>. After all, when a story is rejected, only the editor or slush reader sees it. <b>When a story is published, an entire audience can see it &#8212; and judge it.<\/b> <i>That<\/i> was nerve-wracking the first couple of times. But I got over that fear, too.<\/p>\n<p>This judgment also comes in the form of reviews and criticism, both formal and informal. An informal criticism, for example, is when a coworker reads a story of yours in a magazine and says, &#8220;Even <i>I<\/i> could have written something better than <i>that<\/i>!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Looking back, <b>the real value of rejection was building a thick enough skin to survive the slings and arrows of acceptance.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><b>5. Embrace your editor&#8217;s wisdom<\/b><\/h2>\n<p>I&#8217;ll admit it: when I started out writing (and for quite a long time after that) I thought an <a title=\"Submitting an Unforgettable Guest Post: Tips from an Editor\" href=\"https:\/\/thewritelife.com\/submitting-an-awesome-guest-post-tips-from-an-editor\/\" target=\"_blank\">editor&#8217;s role<\/a> was to reject stories. Or maybe correct a spelling mistake. Or poor grammar.<\/p>\n<p>When I began to sell stories and actually <i>work<\/i> with editors, I learned the truth: <b>An editor is like a coach standing on the sidelines, helping your writing look and feel as good as it can be.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>The first editor I worked with, Edmund Schubert, editor of <a title=\"InterGalactic Medicine Show\" href=\"https:\/\/www.intergalacticmedicineshow.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><i>InterGalactic Medicine Show<\/i><\/a> (and a very good writer in his own right) worked patiently with me on the story he eventually bought. I tried to learn from that experience.<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Stan Schmidt at <a title=\"Analog Science Fiction\" href=\"https:\/\/www.analogsf.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><i>Analog Science Fiction<\/i><\/a> would send me page-long rejection slips describing what was wrong with the stories I sent him. I tried to learn from those, and not make the same mistake twice. After three such rejection slips, he bought a story from me.<\/p>\n<p>Every editor I have worked with, whether fiction or nonfiction, has been a great help, and made my story or article better than what it was when I submitted it. These days, I try to learn something from every interaction I have with editors.<\/p>\n<p><b>What I&#8217;ve learned most of all is that editors are not there to reject stories.<\/b> They are there to find the best stories, and work with the writer make them even better.<\/p>\n<p><b>Writers, what do you wish you could tell your younger selves? What advice would you share with a writer who\u2019s just getting started?<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Figuring out how to be a writer isn\u2019t easy. 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