5 Reasons You Need a Writing Mentor — And How to Find One

5 Reasons You Need a Writing Mentor — And How to Find One

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Whether you’re a beginner looking to answers to basic questions or a frequently-published writer with years of experience under your belt, every writer benefits from having a mentor.

But how do you know what kind of support and guidance you need? And once you determine that, where do you find the right mentor?

5 Ways Mentorship Benefits You

If you’re not convinced you need a mentor, think about some of the benefits of working with one:

1. Inspiration

The creative energy to write cannot thrive in a vacuum, yet writing is often a solitary act. Input from someone outside of your writing process can breath oxygen into your work and spark new ideas.

2. Honest feedback

Every writer, no matter how experienced, needs a reader to show us when something isn’t working. We all need someone to point out that huge plot hole or to gently tell you, “You’ve done that before. Try something else.”

3. Professional development

Writing is as much a business as it is a creative endeavor, so it’s important to stay aware of new developments in the field. Your mentors share information or point you in the right direction so you can do your own research.

4. Accountability

It’s easy to fool yourself out of writing, particularly when you hit a dry spell. A mentor helps you set clear goals and then checks to make sure you’re meeting them.

5. Emotional support

To be a writer is to face rejection on a regular basis. When no one wants your novel, agents aren’t writing back and you’ve run out of things to write, it’s crucial to have someone you trust telling you, “Yes, it’s hard. Keep going anyway.”

How to find a mentor

Every April, I run a women’s writing mentorship exchange, and I’ve learned so much from working with people to connect them with appropriate mentors.

First and most important of all: You and your mentor must have overlapping interests.

A budding YA novelist benefits from the experience of a published YA author. A woman turning to freelancing so she can work from home after having a baby gains invaluable support from an editor who hires freelancers to fill a weekly publication. A writer for a new late night comedy show guides a budding comedian in choosing projects.

It is not necessary that mentor and mentee share the same race, gender or background, but your mentor needs to be aware of underlying assumptions that might impact the mentoring relationship.

Some questions to ask yourself when choosing your mentor:

  • Do you have the same values?
  • Does the person have the expertise you’re looking for?
  • Do you like the person’s outlook and the type of work they do?

You’ll also need to decide what kind of time commitment you want to make and whether or not you choose to pay for mentoring.

Where should you look for a mentor?

Once you have an idea of what kind of mentor you’d like to work with, it’s time to seek them out. These options are likely to offer candidates.

Self-guided writing groups

Find a group of writers to meet in person or online to read and workshop your work. This type of group is usually free, you can meet on your own schedule and develop a writing community.

Plus, commenting on others’ writing keeps you sharp and helps you develop critical analytic skills to apply to your own work. The main difficulty is finding the right group of people.

Online groups

Free Facebook and Yahoo groups offer a space to share your writing, as well as find contacts and leads on writing jobs. Others are paid resources, including the large UPOD Academy (which has a free Yahoo group attached).

Choose your type of group based on how much you want to pay as well as the size of the group.

Smaller ones allow for more attention from the group leaders whereas larger ones will give you a larger pool from which to find writing partners and readers.

Take a course

Look to your community or art centers for writing workshops lead by local and visiting writers. Many colleges and universities also offer a regular schedule of continuing education writing classes.

The opportunity to receive constructive feedback lead by an seasoned instructor not only helps you edit your work — it also keeps you accountable. When it’s your turn to present, you must have your writing ready.

You can also find online writing classes through sites like Coursera and


As you spend time in these various writing communities, you’ll meet people who offer private paid mentoring. Paid mentorship allows you to focus directly on you and your needs.

A non-paid, one-on-one mentorship requires more give and take. It’s your responsibility to ask your potential mentor to work with you. You will be the one to make the effort to make contact and make sure the meetings happen on time.

In the course of your writing career, you’ll make business decisions; need editing, ideas for publishing, and contacts for agents and editors; and perhaps someone who will kick your butt into high gear and remind you to keep writing.

It’s up to you to find the best mentoring relationship for your goals and writing style.

Of course, no one mentor fits every need and not every forum will be the right one for you.

Give a new writing group a few commenting cycles to see how you feel about it. If you’re paying for a group, give it a month during which you take advantage of all the group has to offer.

What about a free Facebook group? Watch the group for a month or two and then determine if you’re truly gaining value. If so, great! If not, try something else.

Through trial and error, you’ll develop a network of mentors to support you. As you gain knowledge and experience, you can then pass that wisdom along to others who will benefit from your know-how, too.

How has mentorship changed your experience as a writer?

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  • MaryClaire says:

    I need a lot of help but don’t have a lot of money for that help…I have 4 stories and don’t know anything about self publishing or anything like that could use someone to be able to walk me through making my books ready to be out in the world to read.

  • amelia says:

    I’m 14 years old. I have been writing poetry everyday for the past 4 years and i wanna take this to the next step. I’ve looked everywhere and can not find a youth mentor service anywhere! i know all of you guys are proabably looking at this like what’s the rush? Why are you 14 and looking for a mentor? I want to get better. I want to become and author when I’m older, but i need help with this i need someone to help me figure out how to develop my poems so there better. I know I’m young and a lot of people will discard this like it means nothing but it means something to me so if someone would help me look for a free online program it would be greatly appreciated.

    • Hi Amelia!

      It’s good to have the support of a mentor at any age. 14 or 140. 🙂 Most of the youth mentor programs I know are local to specific cities. I know of one in Detroit, for example.

      I’d suggest checking with your school, a nearby university or community center. You can also consider taking a class so you can meet other writers and poets your age, get input on your writing and read theirs, too.

      I don’t know how you’ve been searching for a program, but I’d suggest Googling “youth mentorship for poets.” I found quite a few options for online programs.

      And good luck! It’s wonderful you’re so passionate about your writing.

  • Candice Uy says:

    Hi Leigh,

    I am wondering if there resources and mentors for kids who wants to write. My kids are 11 and 7 years old and they enjoy writing stories and poems. I would love for them to find somebody who can guide them with their writing skills. They have done writing classes but they complain they are not getting much of a constructive comments on their work. Please help. I have tried Google to search writing teachers around Bellevue, Washington but nothing is coming up.


    • Hey Candice!

      I mostly work with adults now, but I taught middle school poetry and writing for years in NYC. If you’d like to brainstorm some ideas, feel free to e-mail me at leigh(at)thefutureisred(dot)com. I’m happy to talk more.


      • Candice Uy says:

        Thank you, Leigh. I am hoping to find a teacher that can be physically present, but if nothing pans out I will definitely be asking you for help. Thanks again.

  • Jane Winstead says:

    I am searching for an online writing class in which the lesson gives an assignment. I complete the assignment and submit it as directed. After it is submitted to the teacher/mentor it will be critiqued and returned to me along with comments and suggestions from the teacher/mentor. Can you direct me to such an online writing class.
    Thank you

    • Hey Jane!

      There are quite a few places that do this. Writer’s Digest. Creative Nonfiction magazine. Also There are plenty others, and a university near you likely also has similar courses.

      Which one is right for you depends on what kind of writing you do, and you can find out how much input you get from the instructor in the course description.

  • This is an awesome article! I am fresh out of school and have been trying to find a mentor. This information is exactly what I needed.

    Thank you!

  • Anika says:

    Great post! Very informative. I’m new to online writing and this is good stuff! Blessings.

  • Great post with useful info, there are lot of useful information in this article and also it is really a best website for getting knowledge on information on writing


    I am a new commer to this page,,I want to learnt an eassy writing so,,if one of the members of this institution helps me to find a mentor who will guide me properly to write an eassy then I shall be highly obliged to this concern.
    So,,please help me with given a proper guide to achieving a my fruitfully future..

    • Keep reading on The Write Life. It really is one of the best websites for clear and really wide ranging advice and information on writing.

      And you can also sign up for the mentorship exchange I’m running. The link is at the top of this article, but here it is also:

  • Great article, with a wide range of suggestions for getting the guidance and support every writer needs from time to time!

    As a freelance editor, I have found my most satisfying interactions with authors when the lines between editing and mentorship have blurred. I have often worked with people on their first book, an experience not every editor wants but one that I would deeply miss if it were suddenly eliminated from my professional life.

    Even a limited interaction, such as writing a brief critique for a customer from my Etsy shop, takes on new significance when seen as a form of mentoring. I love being in a position to help someone meet their goals as a writer.

    If you get the opportunity to serve as a mentor to another author, I encourage you to take it. If a mentor comes into your life just when needed, I encourage you to make the most of the relationship, however long or brief it may be.

    Trish O’Connor
    Epiclesis Consulting LLC
    Writers’ Resources and Freelance Editorial Services

    • Absolutely, Trish. While there are many more formal mentorship relationships, so much learning and career/writing development happens in much less structured ways, just as you mentioned.

      We talked about that in the webinar I gave this past week, we talked about networks and how the mentoring often happens in give and take relationships based on our experiences. And also how mentoring comes in many forms. From actual teaching to offering advice to giving a contact.

      • Allida Celeste Webb says:

        I’m looking for a group, to help me learn to research and write a novel based on true story about my uncle, that I never met, he died during the drepression 1933.
        I definitely need practice, am willing to take a course, classes.

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